You bring up an interesting point: That of having an obligation to reproduce. Was this instilled in you at a young age due to the surname dilemma, or was this opinion something you came to by yourself? I personally think that while we all have an obligation to care for, protect and educate the new generation, no one is under any obligation to contribute more to it if they don’t wish to. Of course, this could be because relatives and strangers have felt the need to tell me that “all women want children” and “your body’s job in life is to create more people”. Even my mother has been harping on me to “give her grandkids”…as though a new human is something kept between the dairy aisle and the fresh produce. She has my 3 younger siblings though, and they all WANT children so she’ll get her grandkids in less than 5 years. I think that putting pressure on men (and women) to marry and have children is fine in it’s own way. People need to be supported in their goal of creating a happy, healthy and intelligent family. I’m all for that, and have helped new couples raise children whenever they needed it. But if someone tells you 74 times that they have no desire for that role, and like contributing to society in other ways, do you really believe that they’ll change their mind the 75th time you pressure them? Probably not, and it might even destroy a formerly good relationship! On the other hand, people who have no need to pick up kids from school or stay home with infants can still do good for the community at large. For example, I babysat for free for neighbors who were less fortunate, I volunteer at my local SPCA during the summer, help with a toy drive in December, and donate to the closest food pantry and veteran’s fund in the winter months. If I had babies at home, not only would I not be able to do my actual job (which I love, and hope to be a partner in soon), but it would be very difficult to be so charitable with my time and money otherwise. https://usa-girls.startupdate.nl/ https://usa-girls.linkschakel.nl/ https://usa-girls.linknavigator.nl/ https://usa-girls.startfreak.nl/ https://usa-girls.skhor.de/ https://usa-girls.surfplezier.nl/ https://usa-girls.startway.nl/ https://usa-girls.linkactueel.nl/